How to Deal With Perfectionism Paralysis

How to Deal With Perfectionism Paralysis

I feel heavy today. Slow, and sluggish. Like my feet are getting sucked into some dark, sticky muck and it takes a full-bodied effort just to walk. Self-doubt is weighing on me, like those lead vests they lay over you in the dentist’s office–you know, when they x-ray your teeth? Do they still do that? (I haven’t been to the dentist in a while.) I finally heard back from the job I wanted so badly–I didn’t get it....

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The Bottomless Pit of Unworthiness: Have You Fallen In?

The Bottomless Pit of Unworthiness: Have You Fallen In?

I’ve been waiting by the phone all day. It rang once, and my heart leapt into my throat. It was a wrong number. (Really??!?!) I’ve spent a month interviewing for a job that want and need very badly. I was told i’d hear back by the end of this week (it’s currently Friday at 12:45pm). Back in August and September, I spent 6 weeks interviewing for a different job that I wanted badly; studying and researching tirelessly to...

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A Guided Meditation for Creative Block

A Guided Meditation for Creative Block

*Trigger Warning* I’m about to get super “woo woo.” new-agey. Actually, meditation isn’t “new age,”–it’s ancient but timeless, and its great for restless creative-types. Self-help is kind of my thing (aka obsession), and I’ve recently stumbled on what I believe to be the holy grail of self-helpery: Acceptance through mindfulness-based meditation. I struggled trying to put a name to this...

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I’ve Been Taking Life Too Seriously

I’ve Been Taking Life Too Seriously

I got up early this morning to study for a job interview. I have a routine when it comes to interviews: I make sure to do my research, review the job description and relate my skills to the job duties. Somehow, I still manage to feel under-prepared. What if they ask a question I didn’t prepare for? What if I forget about a crucial skill I have and never get another chance to let them know about it? I cling so much to the idea of getting...

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Advice from a Serial Avoider

Advice from a Serial Avoider

Have you ever felt like you have so much you want to accomplish– such a massive inner agenda, and you don’t really know where to start, so you freeze and avoid doing anything at all? That’s me. My creative “cycle” looks something like this: I have several ideas I think are brilliant, I start brainstorming them, then I start doubting whether it was in fact a good idea or if it’s total crap, so I drag my feet...

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